Review: All in My Head (Headaches)
I picked up All in My Head: An epic quest to cure an unrelenting, totally unreasonable, and only slightly enlightening headache, by Paula Kamen, because it sounded like it would be a fun, smart-girl treatment of something near and dear to my brain: headaches. And it is. It's a cleverly written, funny and wry look at Kamen's ongoing struggle with Chronic Daily Headache (CDH) which zapped her, out of the blue, at the age of 24. My expectations for a light read, thankfully, were quashed before the end of the first chapter. Kamen dares to talk about what many women keep under wraps: she outs herself as an intelligent, accomplished woman who experiences pain and fatigue nearly every day of her life. Women who complain of regular headaches or unpinpointable malaise are often seen as high strung, attention-seeking, or as deeply unhappy people who transform mental anguish into physical pain.
It's a three-layered story that Kamen tells. In addition to her personal narrative which is populated by clueless allopaths, incense-wielding alternative practitioners, boat loads of pharmaceuticals and cruel and unusual treatments of all sorts, Kamen expends her limited marbles (her way of deciding how to expend energy) to deliver a solid debunking of the “all in your head” notion. Kamen, a self-described third wave feminist, takes old school feminism to task for keeping this predominantly female health issue in the closet, in a wrong-headed attempt to bury the long held belief that women are the “weaker” sex, and, therefore, less reliable in the workplace.
If you’re hoping to learn of Kamen’s miracle cure, you’ll be disappointed. The Headache is still with her, but she has learned to stop looking for meaning in the pain itself. This book is highly recommended for anyone living with chronic illness, from fibromyalgia to migraine to multiple sclerosis. It’s self-help for those who tend to avoid traditional self-help works, delivered with attitude and without syrupy, soft-focus platitudes. There is so much of value in this book that I'll stop talking about it and suggest you find a copy yourself.
You can stop reading here, or can go on to read entirely too much information about my personal experience with headache and malaise.


